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7 Red Flags They Will Cheat Again

So you’ve been cheated on in the past and decided to let it go. But that nagging feeling that he may do it again never leaves you. If you can relate to this, then here are some warning signs that you must be mindful of.What do the statistics about cheating say?According to statistics and research, cheating in romantic relationships is not very uncommon. The ‘will he cheat again’ statistics suggest that men are more likely to cheat than women. Cheating is also directly linked with divorce and separation.According to research, the chances of a cheater cheating again in the same relationship or another relationship are pretty high. The research suggests that if a person has cheated in their first relationship, they are three times more likely to cheat again.Once a cheater, always a cheater?

Will he cheat again? Look out for these signs.

1. He won’t give up his affair

This is the biggest warning sign of all. A husband who can’t (or won’t) give up his affair partner is not committed to you and only you. You might encounter this problem in any of the following ways:He says he can handle being in touch with them as “just friends”.

His affair partner is toxic to your marriage. If he doesn’t recognize this (or won’t admit his weakness), he is a fool that is playing with fire. Chances are he will succumb to temptation at some point in the future.

2. He tells you the affair is over, but still keeps in touch with her

Of course, I’m not talking about some crazy woman who is stalking him, and he’s a perfect gentleman telling her to go away and that he’s committed to you. I’m referring to:

Love letters/text messages/emails/voice-mails about how much he misses her or wishes they could still be together.

Communication stating that he had to break it off because you found out

Under the guise of “Closure” meeting up with her, even if it’s just in public for coffee

You need to understand that many men do get emotionally involved with their affair partners. If he’s not ready to give her up yet, he’s not ready to commit to you and only you.

3. He blames you for the affair

If he says something to the effect of: “It’s your fault. You made me do it,” then you’re in trouble. If he won’t take responsibility and blames you, you should take this as a sign that he will likely cheat again in the future and cannot truly repair the relationship.

People who blame their partners for their poor decisions are usually incapable of taking responsibility for those poor choices. In his mind, in the future, if you aren’t perfectly meeting his needs, it is okay for him to cheat on you again.

This is different from when you ask him why he cheated, and he calmly answers you, explaining he felt deprived because you rarely had sex or that he was starving for attention because you criticized him too much.

He’s trying to give you a reason to understand why he was vulnerable (and what you can do to help him be strong and faithful) – this is different. However, that is very different from a man accusing you of “making” him cheat or blaming his affair on you.

4. He is not sorry

Do you find yourself thinking, what if he cheated again?

If he does not express any remorse or regret for his actions, the chances are this is how he feels. He is not sorry to have cheated but maybe says it for the sake of it, now that he has been caught.

If he does not feel sorry for cheating on you once, it could be one of the signs that he will cheat again.

5. He does not want to listen to you

Do you ask yourself, “Is my husband cheating again?”

Does he make you feel comfortable talking about your feelings after he has cheated? Does he listen to you and help you deal with it? If not, the chances are that he is not into making this relationship or marriage work. This is another one of the signs that he will cheat again.

6. He cheated in his past relationships

One of the serial cheater personality signs includes a pattern.

Did he cheat on his previous partners as well? If the answer is yes, then chances are that they are a serial cheater. It is not about you, but about them. If they have cheated in the past and have cheated on you too, this is one of the signs that he will cheat again.

7. They are unwilling to work on the relationship

There are ups and downs in every relationship. If your partner has cheated on you and assures you that they want to move on from it and make the relationship work, great.

However, if you see that they are not committed to making the relationship work but are staying in the union because of any kind of pressure, the chances are that they will cheat again. Lack of commitment to fix the relationship is one of the signs he will cheat again.

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