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Signs You Are The Other Woman

So you just met a new guy, and everything seems to be going great. He text messages you every single day, he takes you to your favorite restaurant every week, and he’s super spontaneous when it comes

So you just met a new guy, and everything seems to be going great. He text messages you every single day, he takes you to your favorite restaurant every week, and he’s super spontaneous when it comes to planning your date.

But now that you think about it, you’re starting to wonder if this guy is hiding something. Every time you call, he never answers the phone and you’ve never even been to his home. Deep down inside, you know what the truth is, but you just don’t want to admit it.

Sorry to break it to you, but the signs are all there, and it’s quite likely that you’re the other woman in this situation. A man who is in a relationship won’t have a lot of time to dedicate to you, so you get stuck with less emotional intimacy, those last minute dates and a guy who will never give you his all. If you’re starting to wonder whether or not you’re the other woman in your relationship, keep reading to see the 15 signs that your boyfriend has a girlfriend.

He Always Cancels

A cancellation here and there is pretty normal, but if your guy is always canceling on you last minute, it could be a sign that his real girlfriend is taking up all of his free time. This is why a man who steps out on his girlfriend won’t make concrete plans with you because he knows those plans are made to be broken. As soon as his girlfriend calls, he will drop you like a hot potato.

A guy who is serious about being with you, and isn’t attached to someone else, wouldn’t dare cancel on you. He will be dying to spend all of his free time with you and only you. If you find yourself in a situation where the guy you’re dating always has to bail out on you, it’s time to do a little bit of digging, because he sounds like he’s definitely living a double life, and you’re more than likely the other woman.

He Never Opens Up

A guy who is cheating on his girl will hold back on opening up with the other woman. When it comes to sharing his feelings, his hopes, his dreams, and goals; he will shrug his shoulders, or maybe even ignore the questions entirely. He’s not looking to open up with you because honestly, he’s only out for one thing: a little bit of fun on the side.

If the guy you’re seeing seems to be extremely closed off, and he would much rather get physical than talk about your relationship or where he sees things going, it could be a sign that you’re the other woman. He knows deep down that his heart belongs to someone else, and he doesn’t want to get any more attached to you than he already has. Keeping you at a distance is his way of allowing things to remain easy and non-committal with you.

He Guards His Phone

Have you ever been with a guy who guarded his phone like it was the winning lottery ticket? This is usually a sign that a guy definitely has something to hide. When the two of you are together, he will definitely keep an eye out on his phone to make sure his real girlfriend doesn’t call or text message him. And if you ever ask to borrow his phone for any reason, he will make up some excuse as to why you can’t even come within three feet of his mobile device.

His phone holds the truth to his double life: all the lovey dovey photos of him and his girl and their flirty text messages. If you have suspicions that you may be the other woman, you’ve got to get your hands on that phone, girl! The next time it rings, glance over to see what the caller ID says. If the name pops up as “Bae,” well, there’s your answer.

His Past Is Blurry

A guy who is hiding a wife or a girlfriend at home will give you a really shady story about his past that doesn’t make any sense. You can start by asking him when his last relationship ended. At first, he may say he last had a girlfriend six months ago, but then he will later switch up his story and say his last relationship was three months ago. When a guy has secrets and many things to hide, he will try to create a faux-life that doesn’t even add up. Your job is to bust him in his lies.

Begin to question him about his conflicting stories, and try to get to the bottom of things. He will probably try to label you as “crazy,” and he will insist that he’s telling you the truth, but you know that’s not the case. His past (and his memory) are blurry because he is trying to hide the fact that he has been in a committed relationship this whole time. He wants to cover his tracks, but at this point, he can’t even remember all the lies that he has spewed.

He Acts Paranoid

Have you ever been out on a date with someone who was constantly looking over their shoulder, watching their back, fidgeting in their chair, and always glancing at their phone? Well, unless they have a warrant out for their arrest and they’re paranoid that they’re about to get locked up at any moment, this guy is probably afraid that he may run into his girlfriend while he’s out with you!

A guy who is living foul and stepping out on his relationship will constantly be on high-alert. He will want to make sure the coast is clear before you enter any establishment, and even after scoping the whole place, he’ll never be fully relaxed. He will also be terrified that he’s about to be busted at any moment, and honestly, he deserves to be called out! Question him as to why he’s acting like he’s on the run from the Feds and see what kind of answer he comes up with. If his response sounds fishy, that’s because it probably is.

You’ve Never Been To His House

When you are dating someone, it is pretty normal to be curious about their living arrangements. It’s not that you care whether or not he lives alone or with roommates, but you just want to check out his place! It’s just too bad this will never happen if the guy you’re dating is currently in a relationship with someone else. Especially if he lives with his woman, there is no chance you will ever step foot in his abode.

The guy who is living a secret life will try to keep his other woman separate from his real life, and this means she will never come anywhere near where he lives. If you’ve gotten so desperate that you have even invited yourself over to his crib, only to get denied and rejected time after time, it’s pretty obvious this guy has something to hide. And that something is definitely his girlfriend!

He Takes You To The Same Places

One of the most exciting parts about being in a new romance is all the wonderful dates your guy plans for you. One weekend, it’s dinner on the lake, and the next weekend you’re listening to live music at an outdoor concert. A guy who is 100% single will plan a variety of dates with you to keep things fun and exciting. But the guy who is already in a relationship will be hesitant to take you anywhere. He has to keep you on the down low because if anyone spots him out with you, it could seriously mess up the situation he has going on with his real girlfriend.

The guy who is already in a relationship will take you to the same establishments over and over again. He has already figured out these places are “safe” locations for him to get his cheat on in peace, so he feels comfortable going to these places with you! if you’ve ben trying to get your guy to switch things up and take you somewhere new, but he always has some kind of excuse, it could be a sign that you’re actually the other woman.

He Won’t Add You On Social Media

Social media is a big deal when it comes to dating and relationships, and a guy’s social media activity can say a lot about him, his personal life, and the way he feels about you. Now that you’ve met someone that you’re really interested in, it’s only normal to want to add them on every social media site known to man, right? Well, it’s just too bad, because when you’re the other woman, you will never have your friend request accepted.

When a guy is cheating, his social media pages will be locked down tighter than the Pentagon. You won’t be able to see his friends list, his latest updates or his most recent pictures. You know why? Because his pages are probably full of photographs of his real girlfriend! He knows that the second he adds you to social media, you will catch him in his lies redhanded.

He may come up with an excuse that he doesn’t add people he dates to his pages, or he may say he prefers to keep his social media pages private for security reasons. Either way, he’s full of it and he definitely has something to hide.

He Only Texts

Texting is very convenient these days. Whether you’re in an important meeting or stuck in traffic, it only takes 2 seconds to reach for your phone and text someone if you want to connect with them. But when it comes to being in a real relationship, building intimacy and bonding, texting just won’t get the job done.

Verbal communication is very important if you want to be in a healthy relationship, and when the two of you can’t be together, talking on the phone can help you to touch base and connect with each other. This is why you should be cautious of the guy whose only form of communication is text messages. This is usually a major red flag, and it could be a sign that he’s in a relationship with someone else.

Because his girlfriend is always around him, it’s easy for a cheating guy to shoot off a couple text messages to all of the women he’s currently talking to…including you. He can send these text messages when his girlfriend steps away to the bathroom, or while she’s taking her mid-day nap. But he wouldn’t dare have a phone conversation with you while his girlfriend is in the room, this is why he rarely ever calls you.

He Disappears On Holidays

When a guy is in a committed relationship, holidays are already reserved for the woman in his life. So why are you’re sitting around waiting for him to make plans with you for New Year’s Eve? It’s just not going to happen.

If you’re the other woman, you will never spend holidays with your guy because he will be too busy hanging out with his girlfriend. He will probably come up with some excuse like he had to work, or his parents made him go out of town with them, but you don’t really believe that, do you? He’s clearly playing you, and he’s letting you know that you’re definitely not his #1. You may want to give him the benefit of the doubt for Thanksgiving and Christmas since those holidays are usually reserved for family, but if Valentine’s Day rolls around and he hasn’t locked you down for a date, you’re definitely the other woman.

Everything’s Last Minute

Because your guy is living a double life, he won’t be able to make plans with you ahead of time. A guy who is in a relationship will play everything by ear because he has to see what kind of plans his real girlfriend has made for him first. Once he finds out his girl will be heading out for a girl’s night out, that’s when he will blow up your inbox and ask to see you. You may think that he is being spontaneous, but the truth is, you’re the other woman! You can find out the truth if he’s playing you or not by suggesting the two of you meet up on a specific day at a specific time. If he starts to squirm and he makes up an excuse as to why he can’t see you on your terms, just know that he is probably hiding something from you.

He’s Secretive About His Whereabouts

When you’re getting settled and comfortable in a new relationship, it’s common to give your guy the 4-1-1 on where you’re going and who you’re with as a courtesy. But if he’s not doing the same for you, it could be a sign that he has something to hide. When a guy is very secretive about his whereabouts, it usually means he doesn’t want you to know where he is for fear that you may pop up and bump into him and his girlfriend.

This guy wants to keep you as far away as possible from his real life because he’s terrified that if he runs into you while he’s out with his girl, it could spell doom. If your guy disappears for hours or days at a time, and he never has an explanation as to where he was and what he was doing, take it as a sign that you could possibly be the other woman.

You Can’t Reach Him At Night

Have you ever tried to reach your guy at night, and you finally gave up after a few tries because it was literally impossible to connect with him? Well, I have bad news for you, you’re probably the other woman in this situation. If your guy has a girlfriend, and if the two of them live together, his phone is probably put on silent or shut off the second he walks through the door. He keeps his phone off because he knows his girlfriend will question every text messages and every phone call that comes through. Instead of having to lie to her, he would much rather ditch his phone after work while he’s spending time with her. This is why after 5:00 P.M., your text messages are left unanswered. He’s spending time with the woman he loves, and as the other woman, you’ll just have to wait until the morning to receive a reply to your last message.

No Pictures, Please

When you’re in a new relationship, you’re just so elated, you want to share your happiness with the world, right? You can’t wait to take a picture of you and your boyfriend and post it on your social media pages to let everyone know you’re officially taken. But not so fast, girlfriend!

The second you whip out your phone to take a picture of your boo, you’ll be in for a rude awakening. If you’re the other woman, there’s no way your guy will let you take a picture of him. Pictures can be used as evidence, and if they get into the wrong hands, or they’re posted online for the world to see, it could really mess up his relationship with his girlfriend. This is why he’s constantly dodging the camera like he’s in the Witness Protection Program. He can’t run the risk of his girlfriend seeing a photo of the two of you together.

You Haven’t Met His Friends And Family

If you’re the other woman, getting introduced to your guy’s family and friends won’t be happening anytime soon. As a matter of fact, you can pretty much cross this off your list entirely. A guy who is cheating would never make his already messy situation even messier by introducing his other woman to the people he cares about the most. Meeting his loved ones and becoming acquainted with them is something that only his girlfriend is able to do. You, on the other hand, or simply the other woman, so you don’t get that privilege. If you have asked your guy if he could introduce you to his friends, and he constantly comes up with an excuse, this is definitely a bad sign.

Now that you know the signs of being the other woman, it’s time for you to make a decision. Will you settle for being your guy’s side piece, or will cut him loose and find someone who can give you everything you want in a relationship? The choice is yours!

Best Wishes

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